Matt's Audio Letter of the Week

Hey everyone, welcome to this week’s edition of the Feel Better Letter, or FBL.
This is Matt, and the title of this message is Love Heals.

Those of you who have been through TBC or have been part of the community know that I often talk about the Grinch and the healing story of the Grinch, because I think it’s such a powerful external demonstration of the type of healing that’s available—and the process of it.

Yesterday, I took my family to Universal Studios, and one of the things we did was watch the Grinch and the tree lighting. We went intentionally, because it’s such a great reminder—there’s something about that story that really lands.

To summarize, in the 2019 movie—which is my favorite version—they talk about the Grinch’s heart being two sizes too small. And really, it’s not that his actual heart is small, but that the energy center of his heart—the amount of love he has access to—is blocked.

As a result, he develops protective beliefs and personas. He puts on masks to make sure he doesn’t connect to people, and he projects his anger, frustration, and discontentment onto Christmas. He even tries to make sure other people don’t feel joy either.

Through the loving acts in the story—the spirit of love—he has an experience where he reconnects to that energy. And as he does, his heart grows three sizes. He’s able to recontextualize his entire experience and heal.

He doesn’t heal by focusing on his projections or trying to fix himself. He heals through reconnection with love. And not romantic love—but the spirit of love, the energy field of love.

When we look at that story, and when we’re working on our own healing—mental, emotional, physical, relational—one of the most foundational things we can do is learn how to connect to love.

A lot of people try to heal from fear. They fear what’s happening and then try to fix it, control it, or manage it. But love isn’t about control, manipulation, force, or changing things. That doesn’t exist in that field.

You can often tell what field you’re operating from just by your actions—by your beliefs, what you think needs to happen, and how you behave. If you’re being forceful or controlling, trying to make something happen, you’re not operating from the field of love.

The reason I bring this up—especially with Christmas less than a week away—is that as we move into the next several days, instead of focusing on outcomes or results in your life, instead of focusing on what you think needs to happen so you can finally feel okay, there’s something else available.

There’s a spirit this time of year that’s always available, but feels especially present now. There tends to be more love in the air, more openness, more connection—if you pay attention. And you can use that collective energy for yourself.

You might ask yourself: What would it mean to be more loving toward myself? Toward others? Toward a relationship I want to heal?

Instead of thinking something else needs to happen, just focus on that. What does it look like to be loving to yourself? How do you talk to yourself? How do you treat yourself? What do you expect of yourself?

And just notice how that feels over the next five or six days.

Don’t do it with the intention of controlling anything. Just allow yourself to enter the state. You might notice it for five minutes at a time—and that’s enough.

That field is one of the most powerful and transformative states you can experience. Even a few minutes in it can shift your perspective completely. You’ll see things differently. You’ll have new insights, intuitive nudges, and clarity.

Learning how to access that state, in my opinion, is one of the true secrets of healing.

Healing is often not about force. It’s about moving into an entirely different state of consciousness than the one that created what you’re experiencing in the first place.

So that’s something to sit with.

With that, I’m wishing you all a wonderful week. I hope you get to spend it with people you care about. I hope you slow down, take in the moments, and allow yourself to really experience the energy that’s around you—because so often we move too fast to feel it.

Wishing you a great week, and I look forward to talking to you soon.