Matt's Audio Letter of the Week

Hey everyone, and welcome to this week's FBL—The Feel Better Letter.

This is Matt, and today I want to talk about something simple, but powerful: decisions—and more specifically, indecision.

One of the key requirements for any kind of real growth or expansion in life is a clear decision. And often, that decision has to be made in the face of uncertainty.

When you're dealing with OCD, anxiety, or fear, uncertainty can feel overwhelming. And what tends to happen is this: just as you're on the cusp of transformation, you pull back and hide in indecision.

You tell yourself you’re waiting. Waiting for more clarity, more certainty, or more signs. But really, what you’re doing is postponing the discomfort that comes with choosing.

It might look like putting things off, not committing to a path, or telling yourself that you’re “still figuring it out.” But the truth is this:

Indecision is a decision.

It’s the decision not to choose. And while that might feel safer in the moment, it keeps you stuck in a kind of mental purgatory—neither here nor there, just suspended.

You can't create change or momentum from that space.

Clear decisions come from alignment—a clear sense of where you want to go and why. But indecision? Indecision is usually just a reflection of a lack of commitment to an outcome.

Think about it: once you fully commit to something, the decisions that follow often become obvious. They may still be uncomfortable, but they're clear.

For example, when my wife and I started building a family, there were many decisions along the way. But those decisions became straightforward once we were aligned on the outcome. I had to decide: yes, I’m going all-in on this relationship. Yes, I want to build this life.

If I had stayed in that space of "what if there’s someone else?" or "what if it doesn’t work out?", we wouldn’t be where we are today. I had to commit—and from that commitment, decisions naturally flowed.

It’s the same with recovery. Many people stay stuck not because they don’t have access to tools or support, but because they haven’t fully committed to getting better.

They tell themselves they need more information, more reassurance, or more time. But at the core, it’s often fear—fear of what it will take, fear of change, fear of failing—that keeps them in limbo.

And so we project that indecision onto external circumstances: the program, the timing, the cost, the uncertainty. But really, it’s internal. It's just us not committing to an outcome.

So if you’re feeling stuck or unsure in your journey, ask yourself:

👉 What am I really avoiding?
👉 What decision am I afraid to make?
👉 What would I do if I fully trusted myself to handle the outcome?

You don’t need perfect information. You just need to make the next best decision from where you are now.

When you begin to make decisions—even small ones—with clarity and conviction, you start building trust in yourself. That trust fuels confidence. And that confidence helps you take the steps that create momentum and meaningful change.

So remember this:

Staying indecisive is still a decision.
And if you don't like where indecision is keeping you, it might be time to choose.

With that, we’ve got a live call coming up in July, so keep an eye out for that. I’d love to see you there.

And if I don’t talk to you before then, wishing everyone here in the U.S. a safe and happy Fourth of July!

Talk soon,
Matt