Matt's Audio Letter of the Week

Hey everyone,

Welcome to this week’s Feel Better Letter.

Today, I want to talk about the frequency—or the energy field—of thoughts.

One of the things people often assume is that whatever their mind says must be logical and true. But one of the most challenging relationships you’ll ever navigate in this world is the one between you and your mind.

When you falsely identify as the mind, you believe that you’re the one creating all these thoughts—that whatever the mind says is you. Then, when you start doing some work on yourself, you realize, “Wait, I don’t actually have control over this mind.” It seems to produce thoughts on its own. Because if you were the mind and in full control of it, I could just tell you, “Hey, stop having those thoughts. Turn them off.” But you can’t do that.

The mind has a way of talking all on its own. So, we start to ask: where do thoughts come from? What’s actually going on here?

You start to realize that you have a lot of thoughts—some say 50,000 a day. I’ve never counted them, but that sounds about right.

The point is—how do you handle your relationship with thought? What do you do with it?

When we assume that every thought is logical, reasonable, and worth following, it can lead us down a destructive path. Because we never stop to assess the energy field or frequency of our thoughts.

Now, when I say “energy field” or “frequency,” some people react negatively to that. But I encourage you to set aside any resistance for a moment and just listen, because this can be truly transformative if you get it.

You have to understand that thought arises from emotion.

Think about it—how do we assess whether someone’s thoughts are anxiety-related or genuinely threatening? For example, if someone has intrusive, harmful thoughts, how do we discern what’s going on? We look at the energy field—the emotional field—that the thoughts exist within.

If someone says, “I have this intrusive thought that creates a lot of fear,” then fear is the realm in which that thought exists.

We all have an emotional spectrum, or an energetic field, out of which thought emerges. The field gives context to the thought.

So when someone is in a state of shame, they’ll have shame-based thoughts. In depression, depressive thoughts. In fear, fearful thoughts. In anger, angry thoughts. And in peace, peaceful thoughts.

Your mind reflects the state you’re in.

To create a new relationship with your mind, you can’t take every thought at face value. You have to see the content of a thought within the context of the emotion.

You work from context. Context is always a higher truth than content. Any content taken out of context almost instantly becomes untrue.

What happens with fear is that we often mistake fear-based thoughts for logical, rational ones. But thoughts that arise in fear are not the same as thoughts that arise in peace or reason.

Still, most people take fear-based thoughts at face value and convince themselves that because they had the thought, it must be reasonable. They rarely stop to consider the state they’re in—and how that state colors their mind.

Your job is to shift your state to a place where your mind can be used resourcefully, instead of following your mind when your body is dysregulated.

Let’s take an example: COVID.

During that time, many people panicked about a potential shortage of supplies and went out to buy hundreds of rolls of toilet paper. (And if you were one of them, this isn’t about judgment—it’s about awareness.)

Ironically, that fear-driven reaction contributed to the very shortage they were afraid of. There was no logical reason that buying excessive amounts of toilet paper would help with a virus, but because people didn’t recognize the frequency of the thoughts they were acting from—fear—they took those thoughts at face value and reacted.

That’s what happens when you don’t understand the field of thought you’re in—the lens you’re looking through. When you take everything your mind says at face value, you become at the mercy of whatever emotional state you’re in.

And if you’re in lower emotional states, that often leads to destructive action.

That’s why learning to transcend the mind—to go beyond thought content and work with context, to shift your state—is one of the most transformational things you can do in life.

So, the main point I want to make today is this: learn to assess the field you’re in—the emotional state, the frequency—because that field will shape your thoughts automatically.

If you’re unaware of this and take every thought as logical or true, you’ll end up following fear, anger, guilt, or shame into destructive places.

I hope this was helpful.

And if you know someone who might find it helpful too, please share it with them.

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Looking forward to talking with you soon.