This Week in The Feel Better Letter 👇
✅ Healing doesn’t come from force — it comes from a shift in state.
✅ You can’t heal fear by controlling it; you heal by moving into love.
✅ Love isn’t something you do — it’s a field you enter.
âś… New episode: You Don't Have to Be Okay This Holiday Season
Matt's Message of the Week
Love Heals
“Healing doesn’t happen by fixing yourself. It happens by reconnecting to love.”
So many people try to heal by controlling fear — fixing symptoms, managing thoughts, or trying to make something change. But love doesn’t work that way.
Love is a state. A field.
When you’re operating from control, pressure, or effort, you’re not in the field of love. You can usually tell by how you’re treating yourself — how you talk to yourself, what you expect of yourself, and how hard you’re trying to make something happen.
Real healing happens when you enter a different state of consciousness than the one that created the struggle.
That’s why the Grinch didn’t heal by fixing himself. He healed by reconnecting to love. When that happened, everything else changed naturally.
As we move into the holidays, there’s an opportunity to slow down and tap into that state — even briefly. Five minutes of genuine love and softness toward yourself can be deeply transformative.
Healing isn’t about effort.
It’s about returning to the state you were always meant to live from.
(Click below to listen to the full message.)
Helpful Episodes for the Week
You Don't Have to Be Okay This Holiday Season
In this episode, Matt talks about the hidden pressure to be okay during the holidays — and how forcing yourself to feel a certain way actually intensifies anxiety, OCD loops, and emotional pain.
👉 [Watch Episode]
A Common Misunderstanding About Acceptance
Acceptance in OCD and anxiety recovery isn’t about resigning to fear—it's about embracing the present moment. Learn the true meaning of acceptance.
👉 [Watch Episode]
Ryan’s Recovery Story: A Journey of Resilience and Healing
Listen to how Ryan's journey from anxiety to empowerment shows the power of acceptance in mental health recovery.
👉 [Watch Episode]
Interested in Working Together?
🧠Free Assessment: Get Your Custom Guide
Take a quick assessment to identify where you are in your recovery journey and get a personalized guide with next steps.
👉 [Take the Free Assessment]
đź“– The Book: From Stuck to Unstuck
Learn the Triple-A Response™ and discover a clear, proven path for stepping out of the fear loop and reclaiming your life.
👉 [Get the Book]
🌱 Taking Back Control Program
Join our 12-week recovery program and get the structure, support, and guidance you need to create lasting change.
👉 [Apply to Join]
🗣️ Work 1-on-1 with Matt
Get personalized coaching and direct support from Matt to solidify your recovery and deepen your practice of trust.
👉 [Work with Matt]
This Week’s Reminder
Healing isn’t about trying harder.
It’s about entering a different state.
To your freedom and success,
Matt
