FBL - Jan 30, 2026

This Week in The Feel Better Letter 👇
âś… Fear feels protective, but it quietly limits your life and keeps you small.
✅ Living through a fear lens distorts everything — even the path out of fear.
âś… Fear can only create more fear; transformation begins when you stop letting it guide your choices.
âś… New episode: The Real Reason Mindfulness Isn't Helping Your OCD
Matt's Message of the Week
There Is No Justification in Living From Fear
Fear is never a valid reason to limit your life.
Fear creates the illusion that it’s keeping you safe, when in reality it quietly builds a smaller and smaller world around you. It becomes a lens that distorts everything — your decisions, your relationships, and even the very process of getting better.
And here’s the trap:
Most people try to get out of fear while still using fear as the guide.
They evaluate recovery options through the same fearful lens:
“Now isn’t a good time.”
“I need certainty before I take a step.”
“I’ll start when things calm down.”
But fear can only produce more fear. It can’t lead you to freedom; it can only reinforce the loop.
Change often begins when you finally get tired of living through that lens — when you stop letting fear run the show and become willing to try a different way.
There is no justified reason to let fear control your life.
Not if you want to grow.
Not if you want peace.
Not if you want freedom.
Noticing where fear still has a foothold — and beginning to remove it — is where transformation really starts.
(Click below to listen to the full message.)
Helpful Episodes for the Week
The Real Reason Mindfulness Isn't Helping Your OCD
In this episode, Matt explains why mindfulness fails for OCD and anxiety when it’s misused — and how it actually fits into real recovery.
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OCD & Anxiety Recovery Happens in the Present Moment
Recovery from OCD and anxiety isn’t about the future—it happens now. Learn how shifting your perception and energy state can help you break free from the anxiety loop.
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Why You Shouldn’t “Calm Down” to Manage Anxiety & OCD
Tired of being told to "calm down" when dealing with anxiety or OCD? Learn why suppression makes things worse and how to truly regulate emotions for lasting relief.
👉 [Watch Episode]
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This Week’s Reminder
You don’t break the loop by listening to fear.
You break it by refusing to build your life around it.
To your freedom and success,
Matt
