This Week in The Feel Better Letter 👇
✅ Progress isn’t measured by fewer thoughts — it’s measured by less resistance.
âś… Trying to eliminate thoughts and feelings keeps the loop alive.
✅ Your relationship to the experience determines whether you’re moving forward.
✅ New episode: OCD Made You Feel Nothing? Here’s How to Feel Alive Again
Matt's Message of the Week
How to Know If You’re Actually Making Progress
There’s a common way people measure progress that actually keeps them stuck.
They look at their thoughts.
They look at their feelings.
And if those are still there… they assume they’re not getting better.
But that’s the wrong metric.
Because the presence of thoughts and feelings isn’t the problem.
Resistance is.
If you’re using tools to try to get rid of thoughts or emotions,
you’re still operating from the same place that created the loop.
And that’s why it continues.
Real progress isn’t about what shows up.
It’s about how you relate to what shows up.
That’s the shift.
(Click below to listen to the full message.)
Helpful Episodes for the Week
OCD Made You Feel Nothing? Here’s How to Feel Alive Again
In this episode, Matt breaks down exactly why OCD and anxiety create emotional numbness, apathy, and depression as a secondary effect, and what you actually need to do to move through it.
👉 [Watch Episode]
5 Mental Compulsions Keeping You Stuck in the OCD Cycle (And How to Recognize Them)
In this episode, Matt breaks down the five mental compulsions that he sees most often in his work with OCD and anxiety clients — behaviors like rumination, mental checking, mental reviewing, mental reassurance, and mental neutralization.
👉 [Watch Episode]
Pure O OCD Is a Myth: The Truth About Intrusive Thoughts and Mental Compulsions
If you've been dealing with relentless intrusive thoughts — about harm, sexuality, religion, or relationships — and every attempt to fight them has made things worse, this episode is for you.
👉 [Watch Episode]
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This Week’s Reminder
Progress isn’t about what you feel.
It’s about how you relate to what you feel.
That’s what changes everything.
To your freedom and success,
Matt
