Happy New Year - Anxiety Recovery 2020

Happy New Year - Anxiety Recovery 2020

https://www.restoredminds.com/5-Rules-For-Recovery

Happy New Year and Welcome to 2020. In this episode I offer three practical thoughts on how to make this year your breakthrough year. Enjoy the show!

TRANSCRIPT

00:05 All right, Hey my friends and welcome to this week's episode. And today is exciting because it is the start of a new year in a new decade, right? Which means it's a fresh start for, for all of us, um, you know, in all these different areas of our life. And this is kind of the, that perfect reset moment that we can use to catapult ourselves into a preaching our goals, right? And in this case, obviously we're gonna be talking about, um, recovery for mental health and, and, uh, you know, when it comes to anxiety and OCD and different types of struggles. And so, um, what I want to talk about in this episode are three things to help use this moment to propel us into, into the recovery that we're looking to achieve. OK. and so, um, point number one that I want to talk about is leaving 2019 back in 2019.

00:54 And so one of the things that happens when we compare ourselves is, or look at our progress as we compare ourselves to past experiences and past versions of ourself, right? And so, um, I mean if we look at businesses for example, um, you know, a lot of people will um, compare their growth, right? Like 2017 then we had a 20% growth in 25% growth and, and they'll, they'll measure their growth based on, you know, a certain S certain point of time, right? And it's a logical way to, to track growth. But when we look at that, when it comes to recovery, it's good to, to see how we're improving. But what can happen sometimes is we compare ourself to when we were at such a low point in our, in our health and we see progress and we, we don't realize that, you know, there's, there's potentially exponential improvement that can happen and we kind of have these limitations we put on of what we can, what we expect we can actually improve.

01:55 Right. I hopefully, hopefully that makes sense. What I'm saying is like, we think, Oh, Hey, well I've improved like 50% from here, you know, X amount of percentage instead of, instead of expecting the idea that Hey, we can use this time and regardless of what has happened in the past, like from this 0.4, we can have exponential growth or exponential success in our recovery, right? And we don't need to bring in our past experiences. So maybe this is, maybe you're struggling with anxiety or OCD or depression and you know, you've struggled for a long time and, and, and you know, I'm talking in some cases, months and even years, sometimes even decades, right? You know, when I, when I talked to, when I talked to people, um, and what happens is, is we take these years in this, this length of time that we've struggled and we assume that there almost has to be this equal length of time that it's going to take to recover, right?

02:51 Or because we've struggled for so long, maybe recovery isn't possible for us, right? We hold onto these beliefs and these beliefs dictate how we act and behave and which then perpetuates the issue. Right? And so with 2020 you know, coming in here into the new year, I want to talk about a few things, right? And the first thing obviously is that idea of leaving the past in the past, right? 2019 2018 in all the years before that were were just that they're, there are things that happened already and there's been good things to happen, there's been bad things to happen, there's been things that we've learned lessons and all of that stuff is good. But what we want to do is we want to start fresh with the idea that Hey look, this can be the year that things actually do turn around for you, right? Whatever that means. And we don't want to bring the baggage of our past experiences and hinder the things that are actually to hinder the things that are actually possible for us this year.

03:53 Okay. We don't want to, we don't want to have that stuff get carried over into the possibilities for this year coming up. And so one of the ways that we have to do that is we have to kind of go through the year, right, of 2019 and you know, you can write down the good things that happened, the bad things that happened, and ultimately, you know, thank the year for the lessons that it taught you and let it go. You know, I mean, everyone has their ways of doing that, but, but really putting that in the past, right? And letting it, letting, starting from this point moving forward. Okay. And then the second thing that I want to talk about is this idea of believing in recovery and, and believing that recovery is something that you can achieve that is possible for you. So oftentimes, you know, like we, we hear stories of people that recover and we think, well, that's great that it's happened for them, but you know, it's not possible for me.

04:49 But what we don't understand is that when we adopt beliefs, however we, we adopt them, right? They're just that they're just their beliefs. That's all they are. And but the problem is, is that our beliefs dictate how we act. And in what you believe, you, you may not realize this is so critical to your success because if you're gonna, if you're gonna go into the recovery process and start implementing, you know, behavior change and treatment techniques and you're operating in the belief that recovery is not possible for you. Well, you know, of course it's almost going to be like a self fulfilling prophecy there. But conversely, if you operate from the belief that, okay, recovery is possible, I can recover and I will recover the, the behavior that's going to follow that belief is going to be exponential to the, the, the belief that recovery is not possible.

05:46 Does that make sense? It's like what we believe is gonna is gonna propel our behavior, which is ultimately gonna help our success in one way or another. Whether it's a negative belief or a positive belief. And so, you know, this, the second main point that I want to talk about and I really encourage you as we move into this new year, is to really adopt the belief that recovery is possible for you. And um, you know, it restored minds. Like that's what we, that's what we believe. You know, I've experienced it not only myself but you know, with so many, you know, other people that have gone through our programs and, and stuff, it's like, you know, people hold on to these beliefs because maybe some therapists told them, Oh, well this is a chronic illness. Like you're going to have this forever, you know, or [inaudible]. And just that statement alone laid, latched onto that idea and held it as their belief and then that just, that limits and dictates how they act from here on out.

06:38 And what I'm, what I'm suggesting and what I'm offering today is this idea of letting go of that belief and adopting the beliefs that you choose, not that someone else sets for you. All right. And then the final point that I want to talk about as we move into this new year, um, is just this idea of taking full responsibility for your health. And, and, and I mean this physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, right? You know, the complete thing, right? I mean a restored mind. I know we focus a lot of mental health, but we by all means don't only focus on mental health, we, we know that mental health is just one aspect of the health of health and you know, physical health, mental health, emotional health, spiritual, they all come together to form your overall health. And that's really what we're, we're looking for is, is overall health, overall restoration.

07:25 And so, um, you know, this year I just want you to ask yourself, this is just this idea of what does it mean for you to be fully responsible for your health? Because a lot of times with our health, we, we love to put our health in the hands of someone else. Well, you don't understand it's, it's the, the companies that make processed foods, that's why I'm not, you know, healthy. Right? Or, you know, my therapist, you know, X, Y, Z, right? We or my mom won't do this. Or you know, I mean, we love to take, we love, we love to figure out reasons why we can't get better, and we love to put those on external things, right? Whether they're people, places, organizations, whatever, right? But when we talk about taking full responsibility for your health, I want you to ask yourself what that means as we move into this year.

08:15 You know, I want you to ask yourself like, Hey, what does it mean for me to be 100% responsible for my health, for my mental health, emotional health, all that? And, and what does it mean and what will that look like if I was actually 100% responsible that if I looked at everything I could do and I took 100% advantage of and being fully responsible for that, what would that look like? And, and more importantly, what kind of results do you think you could achieve if you actually embrace this idea that you were fully responsible for your health? Now, that doesn't mean you can't get assistance, right? You know, you can't get guidance from other people, but you decided to be responsible and not put it on anyone else. And you know, when we do that, when we actually frame it like that for ourselves, it, it makes us look at the problem differently.

09:03 It makes us look at the problem in a way that like, okay, well, and, and we have to start asking ourselves different questions, which then propels different beliefs, which then propels different behavior, which propels different results. Right? And that's really what I want this year to be about for you guys is, is about, you know, is getting results, right? That's what we're about, you know, with this, with this organization here. And so, um, so, you know, I know we took a little break from our, our series on intrusive thoughts and I just wanted to shoot this. Um, you know, I've, so because you know, as we move into this new year, I do think it's such a pivotal time that, and we can use this time as a really good opportunity to, um, do you know, to break out of old habits to old beliefs and really propel ourselves on the right path.

09:46 Um, you know, moving forward here. So just to quickly recap again, um, you know, as we move forward, let go of the past, let go of 2019, leave it in 2019. Make this year your year. And um, you know, really choose to adopt the belief in recovery. I think that's like, and embrace that idea fully that you can recover and that you will recover. And it's just a matter of you finding the right tools, right time and re and right guidance. And you know, if you, uh, if you aren't a part of the community, you know, I really encourage you to check out restored minds where we have our, our online, um, you know, support. And we also have, uh, you know, our trainings and we also have a bunch of free resources available for you as well. Um, you know, and so I'll, I'll incorporate some links down in the notes below and then finally just that, that last concept of taking full responsibility for your health.

10:39 And so, um, I just want to wish all of you a happy new year as we move forward together. Um, and this year, you know, I'm going to be committing to making at least one episode a week, hopefully more. And, um, you know, that's just my commitment to you guys and, um, and I really want, you know, to, for you to make this the year that things turn around for you. And so, um, thank you so much for tuning in this week. I really goes, uh, really hope you guys have a wonderful year, full of amazing, amazing adventure and awesome experiences. And, uh, as we go on this journey together, I'm going to, you know, just keep doing my best to deliver, um, as much helpful information as I can to hopefully help you on your journey to recovery. Thank you so much and we will see you next week on the restored mind show.