Checking
Re-reading, re-reviewing, re-running, unable to submit.
The fear loops · Work performance anxiety
By Matt Codde, LCSW — Founder, Restored MindsLast reviewed
Re-reading every email, dreading reviews, feeling like an impostor? Learn why work anxiety grows the more you manage it — and how the Triple-A Response® breaks the loop.
You finish the email. You read it again. You change one word. You read it again. You check the attachment. You hover over "send." You read it one more time.
After it's gone, you open your sent folder and read it again.
Work performance anxiety is a fear loop in which recurring dread about making mistakes, being evaluated negatively, or being exposed as less capable than people think drives excessive checking, over-preparation, reassurance-seeking, perfectionism, and avoidance at work. When it centers on the fear of being "found out," it's often called impostor syndrome.
Here's the sentence that matters most, and the rest of this page will earn it: this is not a performance problem. It's a fear-about-performance problem.
From the outside, you look like a star employee — thorough, prepared, reliable. From the inside, every task feels like a test you might fail.
You check your work far beyond what it needs. Emails, reports, slides, code — read and re-read. You can't submit until it feels perfect, and it never quite does.
You over-prepare. Hours of prep for a fifteen-minute meeting. Scripts for questions nobody will ask.
You ask for reassurance. "Did that look okay?" "Was the meeting all right?" "Are you happy with how this is going?"
You replay. The comment in the meeting. The tone of your manager's reply. The silence after you sent the draft.
Reviews are agony. The dread starts weeks before. The feedback — even good feedback — gets scanned for the one criticism.
And sometimes you play small. You don't volunteer for the visible project. You don't speak up in the meeting. You don't go for the promotion, because more visibility means more ways to be found out.
Same shape underneath: I might be exposed as not good enough — and I have to make sure I'm not.
Re-reading, re-reviewing, re-running, unable to submit.
Far beyond what the task needs.
From managers, trusted colleagues, anyone who can say it's okay.
Not aiming for excellent work, but for work that can't be criticized.
Going over interactions afterward, measuring yourself against peers.
One mistake → bad review → fired → career over.
Declining visible work, staying quiet, turning down growth.
Each one brings relief. Each one teaches your system the danger was real.
The chest tightens and braces, a low dread that doesn't fully leave between tasks. The stomach drops before reviews and high-stakes meetings. The throat tightens when you want to speak up. The shoulders and neck hold tension all day. The head is noisy — the loop running in the background while you're trying to work.
And here's the cruel part: watching yourself work makes the work worse. When part of your mind is writing the email and part is monitoring whether it sounds competent, both suffer. The fear of performing poorly produces the very thing it's afraid of.
The version people see: someone dependable, always prepared, a little hard on themselves.
The version only you know: the evenings spent re-checking, the Sunday dread, the praise that doesn't land, the success that only raises the bar. With impostor fear, every win makes it worse — each promotion is one more thing you'll have to keep up.
If this were really about your skill, then years of good work would have settled it. They haven't. The loop doesn't run on evidence.
What you're experiencing is a state — a state of consciousness called fear — and states are not diseases. States move. When you're operating from fear, a neutral email looks like disapproval, and a small error looks like the beginning of the end.
Fear isn't a disorder. Fear creates disorder in your life.
The checking, the hours, the opportunities declined — that's the disorder, and it's real. But it's the output. Fear is the input.
The alarm fires — at the review invite, the manager's message, the "send" button — and the mind supplies the story: mistake, disappointed, found out. That's projection. The fear was already running. Work is where it landed.
The compulsion hides inside professionalism. Checking, preparing, and asking for feedback are all things good employees do — which is exactly why the loop can run in plain sight. The difference is function: are you checking to improve the work, or to make the dread go away? The second kind has no finish line.
Inner resistance is not wanting to feel the dread of submitting. Trying to make the uncertainty go away. Bracing before every review. Any version of I can't let go of this until I'm sure it's good enough.
When you resist an emotion, it can't complete. It backs up as pressure — the pressure that keeps you re-reading at 11 p.m. You discharge it by checking or asking, and the loop is reinforced.
Resist → pressure builds → the compulsion releases it → the loop is reinforced → fear comes back stronger.
The work isn't to become good enough that the fear stops. It's to dissolve the resistance, so the fear stops running your workday.
Work performance anxiety is often addressed with CBT and acceptance-based approaches. (If there are genuine skill gaps, training and mentorship are the right tools for those — separate from the fear.) The framework you're about to meet is built on the same foundations, integrated with somatic work.
Here's the filter: if the loop runs on resistance, anything that doesn't dissolve resistance won't break it. More checking gives the loop more to doubt. Reassurance answers a question fear isn't actually asking. Playing small keeps you safe from evaluation and costs you your career.
What breaks it is the Triple-A Response® — a three-step process designed to put you into a state of inner non-resistance. With repetition, practice, and clarity, that state is what lets you truly confront the fear as an emotion inside yourself — the dread of submitting, the tight chest before the review — without pushing against it.
As you confront it, the fear begins to dissipate. As it dissipates, you shift into a different state of consciousness. And from there, you perceive everything differently.
Run it as a way to feel confident enough to hit send, and it becomes another check. Run it correctly and the loop loses its fuel. That's what the assessment, the app, the book, and the program are built to walk you through.
Recovery is not about never making mistakes.
Everyone makes them.
Recovery is not about lowering your standards.
It's about doing your best work without fear running it.
Recovery is shifting your state of consciousness — out of fear, into trust.
In that state, you write the email, read it once, and send it. You speak up in the meeting. Feedback is information. You go for the role you want.
It's a fear loop centered on being evaluated at work — making mistakes, disappointing others, or being exposed as less capable — that drives checking, over-preparation, reassurance-seeking, perfectionism, and avoidance.
Impostor syndrome — the fear of being "found out" as less capable than people think — is one common form of work performance anxiety. It's especially sticky because success tends to raise the stakes instead of settling the fear.
Because each re-read brings a moment of relief from the fear of making a mistake — and teaches your system that sending without checking is dangerous. The checking doesn't produce certainty; it produces more checking.
Because monitoring yourself while you work splits your attention. Part of your mind is doing the task, and part is watching for failure — and both suffer.
Sometimes it is — an abusive manager, unreasonable demands, or discrimination are real problems that need real responses, including HR or legal support. This page is about the fear layer, which can run whether or not the workplace is healthy.
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The free assessment takes about five minutes and gives you a map of your own loop — the trigger, the behaviours, and the exact point where it keeps closing. Your answers are private.
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